29-year-old roommate moves entire family into apartment for 3 weeks, lets them use her 19-year-old roommates stuff: 'Her parents have accidentally walked in my room more than once.'

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Emmy Pratt • Writer and Editor
Jun 15, 2026 5:45 PM EDT

She's not a particularly considerate roommate. 

If your roommates don't do something that annoys you a little bit, you're probably living with a robot and not a real person. If you decide to cohabitate with other people, you have to get used to the fact that they're going to do little things that you don't like, and you're going to do little things that they don't like. It would be borderline impossible to find a living situation where everyone is never annoyed with each other, and if you keep trying, you're never going to stay in one place for very long.

The most important thing is figuring out which annoyances you can accept and which you need to discuss with your roommate. If the bathroom floor is soaking wet every time they take a shower and they don't bother to clean it up, it's worth having a conversation about. But if they forget to take the trash out once after consistently doing so before, it's probably best for the household if you let it go. 

The kitchen is one of the biggest sources of conflict for roommates. If you've devolved to the point where you're arguing about one roommate using a dollop of another roommate's ketchup, it might be best that you stop living with each other as soon as possible. Some people have strict boundaries about what another roommate can do in the kitchen, but it shouldn't be too hard if you're using common sense. If you want to use your roommate's food, ask first. If you make a big mess in the kitchen while cooking, clean it up. It shouldn't be too hard to live with another person, but that wholly depends on the kind of person you're living with. 

The young woman in this story is living with someone 10 years her elder, who let her extended family move into their apartment for three weeks without her permission. The elder roommate's mom is spending hours a day in the kitchen, leaving the younger roommate unable to cook for herself. 

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  • an extended family, who are staying at their family member's apartment for three weeks against her roommate's will.
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    A group of models representing an extended family, who are staying at their family member's apartment for three weeks against her roommate's will.

  • My roommate has her family staying for three weeks, and didn't tell me in advance.

    I'm subleasing for the summer for an internship in a new state. From what I understand Im actually the 5th or 6th subletter on the lease this year, so my roommates don't really care to get to know me.
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  • So basically, they are all random. A couple of them moved out. for summer which left me and one girl. She told me her family would visit and I thought it was fine. When
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  • they came I asked how long they'd be staying and she said that they'd stay for a weekend, they'd all leave for a 1 week vacation. Then come back and stay for a week. And then repeat the cycle over
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  • until july 14th, which is more than a month. They've only been here for 2 days and I am miserable. Her parents accidentally walk in my room and have done it more than once. They keep all
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  • the cleaning supplies I've bought for myself. I tried to eat in the dining room but her family was there and she left them unattended. None of them speak English which leaves a cultural boundary
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  • and they don't seem to want to get to know me either. All my things in the fridge are re arranged. I like to keep my silverware separated since I'm only living here temporarily and they are all mixed up.
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  • They use my personal appliances which I already told my roommates only I want to use (ninja creami, kitchen aid). I can't even use the kitchen because her mom is ALWAYS. LIKE ALWAYS. In
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  • KitchenAid
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    A photo of a KitchenAid mixer, which belongs to the 19-year-old roommate and doesn't want anyone else to use it.

  • there cooking and taking up counter space and fridge space for all this food. Not to mention. They aren't quick to put this all away either. I have no idea what to do because they are from India.
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  • the 29-year-old roommate's mother, who spends all day long in the kitchen, and doesn't care that her daughter's roommate also needs to cook for herself.
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    A woman pretending to be the 29-year-old roommate's mother, who spends all day long in the kitchen, and doesn't care that her daughter's roommate also needs to cook for herself. 

  • and I know culturally it's more normal to have family stay with you. But this is crossing my boundaries. Ive only been living here for 2 weeks which makes me intimidated to say anything. But I pay rent too,
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  • and its not a fairly small amount. I need all and any advice PLEASE O
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  • Hot-Bed-2544 don't When they move your stuff move it back. If you want them using something put it in your room. If they're walking into your room put a sticky note on the door with your name on it. When you're hungry go cook. That's just way too long to have guests I feel for you. Ugh.
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  • NiobeTonks Get a door stop for your bedroom so they can't walk in when you're there. You also need to tell your roommate that you need to use the kitchen between X and Y so you can eat.
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  • Happy-Plant458 move your stuff to your bedroom. check your lease they often have outlines for what is allowed for guests. contact the landlord as well and explain that the guests arent respecting your things when they stay and how long theyve been staying. when the guests arent there sit your room mate down and explain that youre happy he loves his family but you pay to live here too and you dont appreciate not being able to use the kitchen and that theyre using things you've told him you dont w
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  • at the end of the day its more likely that one of you will need to move out than that his entire family is going to respect you or your space. work with your landlord and ask about your options they might have other properties to move you to.
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  • LA-forthewin You need to talk to her and them. Tag your stuff if necessary and tell her to tell them not to use it. Also let her know you're not cool with them staying weeks at a time especially since they're not letting you enjoy your space. Honestly I think you've discovered the reason why there's been such a rapid turnover of renters
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  • EquivalentWest1327 OP She's 29 when I'm 19. I'm not on the lease, I'm just a sublettor. It feels like I'm inferior especially with our age gap
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